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Built for Horsewomen 40, 50, 60 & Beyond
3 Five-Minute Mindset Reset Tools
By a 2x World Champion Trainer
The Circle of Confidence™ Framework
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Built for Horsewomen 40, 50, 60 & Beyond
3 Five-Minute Mindset Reset Tools
By a 2x World Champion Trainer
The Circle of Confidence™ Framework
Instant eBook + Confidence Mastery Toolkit
Optional Paperback Shipped to Your Barn
Sweet friend... let's reset.
A New Book for Horsewomen Who Are Done Pretending
For the horsewoman who's 40, 50, 60, 70 & still loves to ride

You don't need more grit.
You need a better way to reset — right there at the gate.

Borrow the same three 5-minute-or-less mindset tools that helped me go from "barely able to leave the driveway" anxiety to riding into a World Championship with complete trust in myself & my horse. Yours, instantly, for less than a fancy coffee.

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Imagine...
Just for a moment

You're at the gate. Your heart's in your throat.
And this time — you have a tool.

Maybe it's your class at the horse show. Maybe it's a trail ride you've been dreaming of, but the butterflies are going crazy in your stomach & your mind is racing thinking of that spook you barely made it through last time.

Now imagine the same scenario — only this time, as soon as you feel that uncertainty show up, you reach for a mindset tool that quickly calms your nerves, gets you focused, present, & at your best. Sound good?

Sweet friend, that's exactly what's inside these pages.

If any of this sounds familiar,
sweet friend, you're not alone.

01 Your body remembers what your brain wants to forget. You used to bounce. Now you don't — and you know it. That last fall took six months to recover from, and your body is keeping a quiet ledger every time you swing a leg over.
02 You've outgrown "just push through it." All your riding life, the advice was "feel the fear and do it anyway." That worked in your 20s. At 55, 60, 70... it's not bravery you need anymore — it's a real tool. You're done with the "get over it" school of horsemanship.
03 You're afraid your horse can feel you unraveling — and is getting worse because of it. You catch yourself bracing. Shortening the rein. Holding your breath. You've read enough to know horses mirror us. So now you're anxious about being anxious — and the loop just keeps tightening.
04 The clock feels loud now. You don't have another 20 years of riding ahead of you the way you used to. Every ride you chicken out of, every clinic you scroll past, every trail you don't take — you feel the cost. And underneath it all is a quieter fear: what if I quit, and never came back?
05 The barn culture is brutal about this stuff. You can't exactly say "I'm scared of my own horse sometimes" out loud. So you carry it alone, watch younger riders gallop off bareback, and feel a quiet, crushing inadequacy you swore you'd grown out of.
06 Every mindset book has sounded great & changed nothing. Affirmations on the bathroom mirror. Meditation apps you stopped opening. Workbooks half-filled in a drawer. You're not looking for more information. You're looking for something small enough that you'll actually do it — before you ride, not as a lifestyle overhaul.

...then this book was written for you.

When you have a real tool
instead of just "more grit"...

Sitting in the truck, talking yourself into it
You have a 30-second tool you use before you even get out of the truck. By the time your boots hit the gravel, you're already a different woman.
Trying to "fake confident" for your horse
You build real, trainable confidence your horse can actually feel — because it isn't performed. It's been practiced. Science calls it body chemistry. We call it the Boss Mare effect.
"Feel the fear & do it anyway"
You learn to feel the fear AND solve it. Naming whether it's a valid fear, an anxious fear, or a fear of judgment — so you know exactly what to do with it.
Replaying the spook on repeat all week
You rehearse the ride in your mind the way champions do — including the bobbles & the bolts & how you handle them — so when life happens, your body says, "I've handled this before."
Reading another mindset book that doesn't stick
You stop trying to think your way confident & start building new habits your brain actually keeps. Information alone doesn't change behavior. Habits do.
Wondering if you're too old for the dream
You realize your age, your scars, the times you've felt scared & found a way through — those are your greatest assets. You are not starting over. You are starting from experience.
Introducing
5 Minute Mindset Resets to...

Unbridle Your Confidence

The Mindset Playbook for Horsewomen Who Are Done Second-Guessing Themselves & Ready to Ride With Complete Trust in Themselves.

A slim 44-page handbook — your coach in your pocket — that teaches three 5-minute-or-less reset tools you can use anywhere, from the truck to the warm-up pen. Plus the full Confidence Mastery Toolkit so you have something to reach for in every kind of moment.

Three tools. One framework.
A whole new way to walk into the barn.

One

A reframe of fear itself — valid, anxious, or judgment

Most riders treat all three the same & try to push through. Inside, I'll teach you to tell them apart — so you stop fighting the protective fear that's trying to keep you alive, & stop obeying the anxious fear that's just an old story playing on a loop. This is the foundation. Without it, the tools don't stick.

The Foundation
Two

Tool #1 — Trigger Words & the Word Swap

Three power words you choose (mine are Calm. Confident. Connected.) & a Word Swap practice that catches the sabotaging self-talk & flips it. 30 seconds at the gate. Your brain learns in pictures — so the words rebuild the picture before you ever pick up a rein.

Tool #1 · 30 Seconds
Three

Tool #2 — The "Boss Mare" Power Pose

Amy Cuddy's Wonder Woman pose, adapted for horsewomen. Two minutes. Stand tall, hands on hips, head up. Backed by science — it actually changes your body chemistry before you've even touched a rein. Your horse meets a different woman at the mounting block.

Tool #2 · 2 Minutes
Four

Tool #3 — "Act As If" Visualization

Not the airy-fairy kind. This version teaches you to see yourself handling problems as they come up — the spook, the bolt, the bobble — & handling them with confidence. Your brain stores the rehearsal as memory. When the plastic bag actually does blow across the arena, your body says, "Oh, I've handled this before" — because in your mind, you have.

Tool #3 · 5 Minutes
Five

The Equestrian Growth Mindset chapter + the World Championship Story

This is the chapter that turns the tools into an identity shift. The chapter where you'll meet the version of me who self-sabotaged at every "big" show since I was 16 & finally rode to a World Championship with a screw quietly working its way out of my bit the whole class. It's permission to be unfinished & still extraordinary.

The Identity Shift
Photo of Jenny

Suggested: A warm, candid photo of you with Hippo or Raven — the kind that feels like a real moment, not a posed shot.

The lump in my throat
grew bigger & bigger...

...until I felt like I would choke — all those years of struggle, finally demanding to be felt. I was in France, participating in a once-in-a-lifetime coaching session with the great horse trainer & creator of Cavalia, Frédéric Pignon.

"You have a nice way about you with the horses... but, you have to learn to trust yourself."
— Frédéric Pignon

He was so kind. In another circumstance, the words might not have stung, but it hit me hard. In his wisdom, he had seen right through me. And suddenly the blinders I'd worn for so long came off & I could see the secret that was so clear to everyone else but me.

At that time, I couldn't even think of a time I had completely trusted myself in or out of the saddle. I was always unsure. All through high school. Every time I rode. Every time I met new people. Every time I showed my horse.

And here's what's wild — by then, I had already shown horses most of my life. I'd coached other riders to wins. My grandfather trained horses in the Cavalry. I came from this. But, I had notoriously self-sabotaged at every "big" show I rode in since I was 16. (I say "lol" with nervous laughter, because it really isn't funny to work so hard to prepare & then screw up.)

That little book in your hands is the conversation I wish someone had had with me in France — without me having to fly there.

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From women just like you...

"Personally, this book was a game-changer. After a decade away from riding & driving, I used the tools shared here to reclaim my confidence & reconnect with my horses in a way I thought was lost to me. It gave me the clarity I craved, the courage I needed, & the joy of partnership I thought I'd never experience again."

— Heather H.

"This book is the best system I have seen to gain confidence in yourself & in your horse."

— Bridgette H.

"What a great resource for equestrians who have lost confidence in their horsemanship! Jenny's 3 Confident Mindset tips are easy to implement & deceptively powerful. Her story will inspire you to believe you can regain your confidence too!"

— Cathy M.

"I now understand how my mindset affects our performance — & better yet, there is a clear path to making great improvement. I can't wait to dig into the educational opportunities HorseGirl.me provides. The best is yet to come!"

— Laurie N.

Everything You Get
Unbridle Your Confidence Handbook
+ The Confidence Mastery Toolkit

Instant access · Yours forever · Everything you need to feel calm, grounded & trusted by your horse — 5 minutes at a time.

The full 44-page Unbridle Your Confidence Handbook (eBook PDF) Core Book
The audiobook — listen on the way to the barn, in the trailer, anywhere Audiobook
The Nervous System Reset Cheat Sheet — for the moments your body needs to come down before your brain can Reset Tool
The Pre-Ride Mental Checklist + Pre-Ride Check Arena Guide Pre-Ride
The Connected Leadership Mini Poster — for your tack room Tack Room
The Equestrian Word Swap printable + Growth Mindset Refresher Mindset
Invitation to my live Wednesday "Sweet Friend" webinar — where we go deeper, together Live Event
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The Things You're Probably
Wondering Right Now

I'm in my 60s (or 70s). Is this still for me?
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Sweet friend — especially for you. The tools in this book were built for women who can't afford another fall, who want partnership not adrenaline, & who are done with the "just be braver" school of advice. I'm 59 myself, & I write this for the woman I see in the mirror as much as for any 30-year-old at the barn.
I haven't ridden in years. Will this make sense to me?
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Yes. The handbook works whether you're riding 5 days a week or you've been out of the saddle for a decade. The tools work the same. And honestly — many of the women who've trusted these tools are re-riders coming back after 10, 20, even 30 years away. You are not starting over. You are starting from experience.
How long does it take to read?
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It's a slim 44-page handbook — most readers finish it in one sitting, then keep it on their tack trunk to re-read. The tools themselves take 5 minutes or less to actually use in real life. The whole point is something you'll actually do — not a system to study.
What's the difference between the $4.99 & $14.99 options?
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The $4.99 option gives you the eBook PDF, the audiobook, & the full Confidence Mastery Toolkit — all instant access, all digital. The $14.99 option gives you all of that plus the physical paperback shipped to your door. A lot of horsewomen love having the paperback in the tack trunk to flip through & mark up. Both options include the live Wednesday webinar invitation.
Do I need to be a "show" rider to get value from this?
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Not at all. The book uses some show-pen stories because that's where I first put these tools to the test — but the tools themselves are for trail rides, lessons, hauling, the mounting block, even your driveway. Anywhere fear or uncertainty shows up.
I've read a hundred mindset books. How is this different?
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This one is short on purpose. It's three tools you'll actually use — not a system to study. And it's written by a horsewoman, for horsewomen, with stories from a real barn, by a real woman in her late 50s who has lived every page. Not generic self-help bent toward riding.
What if I get the book & don't love it?
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You're covered by my Confidence Credit Guarantee. If you don't feel a noticeable shift in your confidence within 7 days, I'll credit your full purchase toward anything else we offer — no questions asked. Try it. If you don't feel the difference, your next step is on us.
How fast will I get everything?
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The eBook, audiobook, & Confidence Mastery Toolkit are instant access — you'll be reading tonight. If you choose the paperback bundle, the physical book typically ships within 3–5 business days in the US (2–3 weeks international). You'll still have the digital version right away — so you can start the moment you check out.
Is this part of something bigger?
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Yes — this book is the front door to my Circle of Confidence™ framework, & to my membership community, the Extraordinary Horsemanship Journey. The book is a complete stand-alone tool. There's no pressure to go further. But if these tools resonate, I'll invite you to a live Wednesday webinar where you can go deeper with me. Either way — the book is yours.
Author Photo

Suggested: Warm headshot of you — the one with you & Raven from your Voxer profile would be lovely. Or one with Hippo if you have a good one.

About Jenny Rohlen

Sweet friend — if we haven't met...

I'm Jenny Rohlen. You might know me as the creator of HorseGirl.me, the Equestrian Planner, or as co-creator of The Cannon Method. But if we've never crossed paths — I'm just a horse girl like you, & my whole life still revolves around horses.

I'm a 2x World Champion. I'm 59. I came from a show horse background — my grandfather trained horses in the Cavalry. And for most of my riding life, I've felt the same fear, doubt & pressure you might be feeling right now.

I created this little handbook to share the exact tools that helped me go from "barely able to leave the driveway" kind of anxiety to riding into a World Championship with complete trust in myself. These aren't fluff tips. They're real mindset resets that transformed my horsemanship & honestly? They changed my life.

I live in beautiful small-town Southern Illinois with my horses — back on the family farm where I rode in endless circles as a kid & dreamed of being a horse trainer someday. Funny how dreams have a way of finding their way back to you.

One Last Thing, Sweet Friend

Your horse deserves the calm, grounded
leader you're capable of being.

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